Sunday, January 10, 2010

as if dating isn't hard enough...

... I have recently encountered a new phenomenon; I will dub it "Blog Envy". It is when you go out on a date with another blogger and he wants to know how many page views and followers you have. When you answer honestly he seethes, then I laugh and we both agree to call it a night.

I know! Can you believe I am too awesome to date?! Inconceivable.

21 comments:

Terry Nelson said...

That's exactly why I'd never date you too.

Blog envy - Oh it's real baby - it's real!

WORD VERIFICATION for this comment: reali

The Crescat said...

I knew you'd appreciate this. I thought of you at the time, that's why I laughed.

Just another mad Catholic said...

This makes me glad that I deleted my blog some months back,

KimP said...

I guess your blog traffic is similar to income; never divulge in case yours is bigger than his!

nazareth priest said...

Dump him!

Mark Scott Abeln said...

I always have that male overconfidence: "Of course she wants to date me;" no matter how impressive her stats.

Old Bob said...

Dear Kat,
Please remember that in any dating situation, the lady has control of the Ctrl-Alt-Del three-finger salute. :-)

Lola said...

You could write him a little Thank You note on saving you months of wasted time.

I'm convinced only con artists hide their true selves in the early dating process. A person will tell you who they are right away.

Keep your eyes wide open.

Mary Ellen said...

Nothing to envy about my blog..I'm thinking of having implants added to my posts. Maybe that will get some attention. ;-)

Gregory Thaumaturgas said...

Well, that's cool that you're finally on a date with a guy :-) I know you've probably been waiting so long. You'll find someone excellent if you just approach it enthusiastically :-) Keep it up!

~G.T.

The Crescat said...

"I know you've probably been waiting so long."

LOL... don't let the blog piety fool you. I have an active dating life... the staying power is what seems to be lacking in my current relationships.

But yes, I stay enthusiastic and take it all in stride. I have made some great guy friends along the way, so it's not all a loss.

Pablo said...

Lola said...
I'm convinced only con artists hide their true selves in the early dating process....

I beg your pardon?

I find I must hide my true self in the early dating process in order to protect myself. It is the best way I know of to have my love interests allow me to get to know the real them. I am not a con artist.

If women were to discover right away I have a drinking problem, no job, no prospects of a job, and I scratch myself in public, in other words, I'm a real knuckle dragger, its head over heels time. And they never get to know the real me.

Its lonely being loved... I wish someone would take the time to like me.

*

Just another mad Catholic said...

Pablo I hear you brother, I'm in a similar though different place myself

Lola
Please understand that some of us guys might not reveal absolutely everything about us on the first date for reasons that have nothing to do with being a conn artist, I for example wouldn't mention that I used to have a problem with a certain sin on a first date for fear that the gal would run a mile without considering me as a person.

nazareth priest said...

Just another made Catholic: You don't have to go to confession on the first date, mate!
Just be real!!
(Take it for what's it's worth from a confirmed celibate:<)!)

nazareth priest said...

Sorry, that should be "Just another mad Catholic"...apologies!

pinksy82@comcast.net said...

Well, I'll be. I think I have just happened upon the Beatific Blog. It has been so long since I have had a date, I am thinking of joining a Benedictine monastery; however, due to a prior life lived under an avalanche of sin, I am consigned to dating hell, forever.

nazareth priest said...

This whole dating thing is just a "mind blower" for me, anyhoo...
Oy!
I was taken practically outta the cradle (at age 19) and dropped into the world of celibacy.
Guys and gals: from someone (who you can take it or leave it) just be yourself; forgettabout tryin' to be "whatever".
And if you feel you are not "marriageable"mtomsome human...feel free to contact me...We've got a monastery AND a convent...Yeah!:-)!

Just another mad Catholic said...

Nazereth priest

Thats the point I was trying to make against lola's assertion that anyone one who doesn't go to confession on the first date is a con artist e.g. my best friend asked that I didn't reveal certain details about his past to a girl he'd just met, now that they've been together for over a year I'm sure that she just accepts the fact that he'd apostazied for nearly 15yrs and they love each over dearly

btw nice profile pic - shame Fr Z's blog doesn't allow them

Enbrethiliel said...

+JMJ+

I don't think Lola was talking about confessing absolutely everything as much as she was talking about being a poser.

Yet being on one's best behaviour for the first few dates is common courtesy--and keeping certain intimate details private until one gets to know the other person better is the way of all relationship building. These are things one can do without being a con artist.

The Crescat said...

oy vey! Damnit Digi! Behave.

Seriously, no identifiers please.

Lola said...

Enbrethiliel had it precisely!

She says everything better.

Here's some advice from an old Broad who has observed a thing or two:

If you hear a confession on the first date: RUN!!!!

note to JamC:
For Goodness sake don't discuss sin. Discuss VIRTUE if anything. Good Books, good music, good art. Something uplifting. Go out in a fun group before that one on one 'date'. Bowlings nice, skating...


What I was referring to is observe how the young man/woman treats the waitstaff at the restaurant. How do they speak of others who leave the room? See if they are behaving themselves with others they don't have any interest in.

It's all the better if you know people mutually.

Every lousy boyfriend I ever had was lousy from the start. Don't give 'em the benefit of the doubt until it's earned!

Every good boyfriend was very good...

note to Pablo: It is I who begs your pardon for not making myself more clear: A con artist is "a swindler who exploits the confidence of his victim" http://www.thefreedictionary.com/con+artist

BTW, every lid has a pot.


In the dating realm you'd better not be looking across the table at a 'victim'.

And to end my commment: This gem that CC went out with did show her the stuff he was made of right away! Praise God!