Sunday, July 11, 2010

more dating advice...

... I was recently reminded of some advice I once received; focus less on finding the right person and instead strive to be the right person.

You can see where I get hung up on the latter, never mind the former.

6 comments:

Christopher Lake said...

I've tried both finding the right person and striving to be the right person (sometimes, even at the same time!).

It's a mystery to me. Some contemptible men have wonderful wives and treat them viciously. Some angry women have kind husbands and constantly hound them. Some nice, flawed people (like most of us, probably) end up together and are very happy. Some of us just can't find the right one-- which means anyone remotely compatible who will actually stay, through thick and thin.

What is the ultimate reason behind any of the above scenarios? God knows-- I certainly don't. I'm just trying, weakly, to live for Him and hoping that, perhaps, I won't be single at 60-- or if I am, that I will be at peace with it. Either way, His will be done.

Terry Nelson said...

I usually just focused upon finding the hottest looking person.

3puddytats said...

Yeah--you can STRIVE to be the right person--but ya still have to have gas in your trolling motor, your line in the water and bait on the hook...

If you put out bait for catfish..don't be surprised if you catch catfish...

and don't get your saltwater and freshwater rigs confused...

Sara

3puddytats said...

Terry-

Last time I was in Vegas all I had to do was wave a $100 bill in the air and I was SURROUNDED by uber-hot guys.. :)

Sara

Rick said...

And how does one become the right person? IMHO - to be the right person is to be oneself. Because opposites may attract, but it is commonalities that bind. The challenge of being oneself lies in knowing oneself first. Details about that at http://divine-ripples.blogspot.com/2010/06/aristotle-know-yourself.html

missjeanevil said...

I'm being myself and I stopped pestering God about it. Several times He answered my prayers with exactly what I was asking for, and I found out that what I wanted wasn't good for me. I have a career I rejected in my early adulthood and live in a small town instead of the urban areas I preferred. I'm happier than I ever was when I was pursuing what I thought I wanted.

"Thy will be done" doesn't just apply to the tough stuff.