Thursday, September 09, 2010

the fruits of feminism...

... I can not even begin to describe the irrevocable damage radical feminism has done to generations of women. I think better than any argument against feminism is to examine the fruits this ideology has born. Or lack of. My generation of women, who were reared on this toxic form of self loathing, are beginning to recognize and speak out against what our mother's taught us.

Can you imagine growing up as a little girl and having your mom repeatedly refer to motherhood as a type of burdensome servitude, then as a young adult being told not to ruin your life by having kids. Can you comprehend the effects on one's self esteem that has? I can. So can Rebecca Walker, daughter of author Alice Walker. Read her story here.


just me said...

Thank you for sharing that. It was very enlightening!

Frank said...
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TCN said...

Feminists are not about women, they are about abortion. Period.

They have nothing to do with me or my family.

Elise said...

Rebecca Walker's story is the saddest thing I've read in a long time.

3puddytats said...

There is feminism, then there's "radical" feminism.

I am so thankful for stong women like my mother, a working gal in the 50's, who rallied for equality in the workplace, fought for the right for women to have their own bank accounts and responsibilit fo rtheir own money, be able to sign their own legal contracts (she recounts at the time in Seattle she couldn't even sign a lease on an apartment--her father had to), fought for women to be able to keep their jobs when they became pregnant, worked on alleviating the stigma of divorced women, etc.

I'd hate to see what my life would be like without the work of the early feminists...I definitely wouldn't be where I'm at a professional occupation where I make the same amount of money as a man, my own house I bought with my own money, and money in the bank for me to do with as I please and not "controlled" by a male member of my family...

Not all women are destined to be mothers, and I'm sure glad that I had the CHOICE as to what to do with my life, (ie pursue a professional career) and not choices made FOR me (your going to marry this mean ugly man and have babies whether you like it or not..)


Therese Z said...

What world is Sara from? My mother and her sisters who came of age in the 50's were expected to marry, and if they didn't marry on whatever schedule my grandmother had in her head, they got leaned on and reminded and cajoled by their mother and their relatives.

But they all worked, made their own money, lived in apartments with or without each other. Each got married eventually, some got divorced.

Nobody told them who to marry or controlled their money. They had bank accounts, checking accounts, credit cards. If they didn't own houses it was because they had pretty humble jobs and didn't make a bunch of money. They didn't all go to college, but that was the 50's, not sexism.

There was certainly social pressure, but they seem to have cared sometimes and not others. My mother now in her 80's remembers with self-satisfied laughter bosses who came to certain conclusions about her that they had to un-conclude. Heck, that still happened in the 70's in college and in the 80's in the job world, to me.

Christopher Lake said...

Therese, springing from your comment, my great-grandmother, on my mother's side of the family, left her abusive husband (with her daughter in hand) in the 1920s. She worked her way into a job as the treasurer at the Shoreham Hotel in Washington, D.C. There, she met *many* major political figures, Jackie Robinson, and the Beatles, when they came to the U.S. in 1964!

I do agree with Sara that the feminist movement has achieved certain good things, but as with the civil rights movement, as it became more militant, and less connected to Judeo-Christian thought, the problematic aspects became more and more severe.

(On another note entirely, Kat, I saw you, Tim Troutman, and Andrew Preslar on a "Liturgy and Lager" video on Facebook! What fun! I hope that Catholics in MD/D.C. know how to enjoy themselves as much as Catholics seem to in N.C.!)

Anonymous said...

The problem with most of the so-called "feminists" is that they only represent a certain slice of women, but act as if their circumstances apply to all women. The first time I came across Betty Friedan's metaphor of having a family as "a comfortable concentration camp", I knew the writer wasn't speaking for farmer's wives or working-poor women. (In fact, she wasn't even speaking of herself since she misrepresented her own life.) Same thing with lesbian poets/essayists whose definition of "feminism" includes NOT having sexual relationships with men. Or a myopic Linda Hirshman who insists that educated women need to work outside the home, because otherwise they betray the whole feminist ideal of having less-educated women (preferably low-wage foreigners) raise their children. Or some such nonsense. (In Hirshman's alternate universe, women who telecommute or run businesses from their home aren't really working.)

Speaking of which, my great-grandmother sold her own hand-churned butter and ran the farm when her husband worked in lumbercamps and the like. Because of her, my grandfather expected that his daughters were just as capable as his sons. Therefore, when my mother graduated from high school in '54 (and turning 15), he had no objection to her accepting a scholarship at a co-ed Catholic college.

She earned a BA in math and went on to pursue a master's degree. When "feminists" were burning bras on the campus of the University of Michigan, she didn't go because she was studying for a test in applied mathematics (or its equivalent). That is MY favorite illustration of what is and isn't really feminism.

Natasa said...

That's a great story about your mom.

good to be reminded it's all about the money and power.