Tuesday, October 05, 2010

things that make me go "ew"...

... people who introduce their significant others as "my lover". Then you are forced to stand there and make with the chit chat while trying desperately hard not to imagine them doing what that title infers.

23 comments:

nazareth priest said...

"Ew" is exactly right.
TMI.
'Tell it to somebody who cares,' as a great old Irish priest I used to know, said in occasions such as this!!

Paul Cat said...

http://www.nbc.com/saturday-night-live/video/lovers-hot-tub-with-drew-barrymore/236046/

When people say "lovers" I always think of this skit.

Mark Scott Abeln said...

Once upon a time, that word didn't mean what it means now.

My sister-in-law has a story.... she was a teenager and brought her boyfriend to a party. Her Austrian grandmother then called the poor boy her "lover". Much embarrassment.

G said...

The title implies, you infer.

(Sr. Francis is to blame for the grammarian in me. A crusty old Dominican. She was awesome.)

s-p said...

ROTFL! "Partner" usually doesn't imply sharing saddles either.

Denita said...

"partner" is the word I don't like. BTW, pray for the conversion of my older brother. He's gay.

Smiley said...

whats wrong with saying wife or husband really? I see this as yet another use of words to destroy family.

Dr. Eric said...

I always refer to the other doctor in the clinic as "my business partner" because "partner" now has homosexual connotations.

Janny said...

I'm with "wife," "husband," etc. If the couple isn't married, though, they don't use that term unless they're deliberately trying to fool someone (like an elderly relative!). So they're at a loss as to what to call that person.

It'd actually be wicked-fun to look 'em in the eye and say, in all innocence, "Oh, the person you're living in sin with?" or, "Ah, the person who won't marry you because they're already getting all the benefits?"

In my parents' day, they'd have said, "Oh, the person you're shacking up with. I see." And a lot of them wouldn't have cared if that embarrassed you. In the culture's eyes, you deserved to be embarrassed about that. Now, you'd just be frowned at as some kind of "hater." Which is actually fine, when you think about it. Because you DO hate the sin that flaunts itself in front of your eyes, after all. Maybe if more people were called to account in this fashion, a lot more than just "partnerships" would be straightened out.

Unfortunately, "partner" too often nowadays indicates a gay liaison, also something you don't want to spend time trying to wipe out of your mind whilst sipping wine and attempting to look sophisticated...

Pour me another, please.
JB

Rick said...

@Smiley: Perhaps the couple isn't married.

@G: witty.

@Kat: I'd think the same thing though; being a guy, I would have a different response - involuntary though it might be.

s-p said...

Dr. Rick, Yup. I do handyman services and whenever I show up to a client's house with a helper I introduce him and say "This is my partner, Tom... but not in that way." They always laugh.

Rick said...

@s-p: [LOL] We live in interesting times sir and it is best to clarify lest the other assume. Because if they assume, and that alternate lifestyle is not OK then you might lose a client. But, it is OK by them, I wouldn't want to do work for them - but that's just me.

tubbs said...

ah, "liasons",
Where's Emily Post when you need her.
Denita, Prayers for your brother; not only does he face the prospect of loss of the Beatific Vision, but he faces the prospect of an eternity locked up in a room with Catholic Traddies. Heaven forefend!
So what's wrong (besides too many sylables) with 'signifigant other'?

Nârwen said...

I don't know about Emily Post, but Miss Manners once opined that the term 'partners' should be reserved for 'cigar-chomping gentlemen who suspect each other of cheating on the books.'

Anthony S. "Tony" Layne said...

"Husband and wife" isn't safe anymore. I had to roll right along without an embarrassing pause when a customer referred to another man as his "husband". (Had to ... they don't pay me to stand on my soapbox. One day I'll have to get a job with the Church so I don't have to feel like I must leave my religion in the garage with my car when I go in to work.)

Jim said...

@ "Tony" - as one who has worked for the Church in the past, and is currently working the Church now, you will find that many times you still must leave your religion in the garage. Sad, but true.

Badger Catholic said...

Paul Cat, Exactly!

Denita said...

@ tubbs: I'm a Traddie", but my shell's not that hard, I don't mind the Mass in English as long as it's revrent. Thanks for the prayers.

tubbs said...

Denita, I know what you mean.
I'd love to get a bumper sticker that says "It's the REVERENCE, stupid!"

Hilary Jane Margaret White said...

I can't even stand the term "girlfriend" or "boyfriend". What does that even mean anyway.

And don't get me started on the ubiquitous British expression "partner". Ugh.

Hilary Jane Margaret White said...

I was told about my cousin's "partner," the woman he was living with and with whom he had a son. I responded that the correct word for such a person in the English language is "concubine".

Hilary Jane Margaret White said...

I think the use of "partner" to indicate homosexual pairing is something more common in the US. In Britain I have seen the term used to describe couples who have been happily married for decades. It goes for everyone who is in any kind of conjugal or faux-conjugal arrangement, whether they live together or not. In magazines, newspapers, on tv and even in common conversation, British people are so obedient they will use the language that is fed to them by the BBC.

The BBC euphemism for Muslim is another one. I have actually had British people use the term "Asian" in ordinary conversation. I caused much embarrassment when I said, "Do you mean Japanese or Islamic when you say that?" One is never supposed to call the bluff.

The Crescat said...

Wow, thanks Paul for calling to mind something I had successfully blocked from my mind for many years... only now to resurface.