Wednesday, November 24, 2010

how not to respond...

... to a woman who says she is considering becoming a nun; "Whatsamadda, you couldn't find a husband?"

12 comments:

The Watcher said...

I watched Oprah the other day (talk about penance) when she had the Sisters on (http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/Aspiring-Nuns-Report-for-Gods-Duty-Video). I actually got irritated at some of the parents when they were saying, 'Oh, we expected her to get married, have kids', etc., etc. One mom even mentioned a 'normal' life. And this RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEIR DAUGHTERS WHO'D JUST BEEN (I don't know the term, I'm not Catholic)! I thought, that sounds so heartless.

The Crescat said...

I saw the same video too and couldn't believe her mom said that... on her WEDDING day. The truth is, that life is counter cultural and it is very hard for people to comprehend.

Just another mad Catholic said...

"Whatsamadda, you couldn't find a husband?"

She couldn't find a husband because Jesus wanted her to be his Bride

hauntingsacristy said...

Insensitivity (with a good dollop of ignorance) is the one thing I dread the most about holidays My mother-in-law and her sister were talking about how I shouldn't consider moving to another city because "who would help me when the baby comes?" No matter that I am not pregnant wil probably never have children because of a health condition. And, yes, I have explained this. Many times.

Dr. Eric said...

Tell them that you are planning on giving your heart to the one Man who won't break it.

Homeboy McCoy said...

I got that from my Mom, too. My retort is: "It's because you've set such a high standard that the only ones worthy to be my bride are The Church and Our Lady."

Lydia McGrew said...
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3puddytats said...

For me the rude comments are alot easier to take with ample portions of heavily spiked eggnog...

Sara

Denita said...

It's this sex-mad society we live in. I know someone who actually believes a CNN story about nuns getting abortions in secret because some priests got them pregnant. I think she believes celibacy is repression of "healthy, natural" urges. I have lived all my life without sex, and there's nothing wrong with me. I love all those who have chosen religious life. More power to them!!

belinda said...

I have a daughter who wants to be a nun and she's always getting stupid comments from people - Catholics as well.

The nastyness comes from the same people who ask rude questions about how many children you plan on having, when are you going to stop having children,and why don't you use birth control.

belinda said...

@ the watcher, my daughter went to school with one of the young women on the show and they write to one another. I'm not in any hurry to let my 17 year old "sign up" just yet. Our entire family has a problem with her not being accessable to us for an entire year but we know at some point it will happen, but we need more time before we can let her go.

It is weird to me that people -even Catholics don't value the religious life or even the single life as much as they should and it's even stranger when you consider that many have been divorced and remarried and know how difficult that road can be.

Who can say what God's will is for another person. Parents should stay out of these matters.

Denita said...

@belinda: Thank you so much for your comment. Being a 48 year old virgin with no call to marriage or religious life is very hard for me. I even fell out of the Church once because I felt my needs weren't being met as a single. I won't leave the Church again, but I wish some Catholics would understand the needs of us singles. Thanks for noticing this.